With my wedding and honeymoon now behind me, I’m settling back in to a new routine with work and putting a great deal more energy into my health and wellbeing as my pregnancy progresses. Taking things a little easier over September gave me the chance to focus on what was a really important time in my life, and start to shift my thinking more and more towards my upcoming role as a new mum. And the Universe had a way of testing it for me…
As I’m sure many first time mums will agree with (or perhaps even mums to several children!), there is a lot of pressure to perform in a certain way as a mother. In other areas of my life, I’ve learnt to let go of those expectations, but as the weeks quickly countdown to our baby’s arrival, I found myself looking outside for help, guidance and advice to help me prepare.
Usually my help, guidance and advice comes from my guides and intuition – but in this instance, I reverted back to old thinking, figuring others would be a great source of information and direction. I consulted other mothers, websites, books and stores as my first port of call to navigate how to prepare for birth. This process has been extremely useful – but certainly freaked me out! This search for others’ expereinces was having a detrimental effect and had me doubting my ability to handle parenthood – and my baby hasn’t even arrived yet!
As I often tell my clients, there are seven billion people in the world, so there are seven billion different ways of doing things… and I needed to remind myself that that applied to finding our own way of settling into this idea of parenthood. So, I went back to what I know best – I consulted my guides and intuition for the help, guidance and advice I needed. I’ve been asking: “What am I meant to be learning and how can I best learn it?” Among other things, I know I’m learning to let go even more, to allow the Universe to come up with a plan which I’m not privy to.
I consulted my guides through automatic writing, and I’m happy to share an excerpt of their advice here:
“Please know you are exactly where you need to be for further growth and nourishment. Your child is very happy and healthy. You do indeed have all you need, sweet child. Go ever gently into this phase now and believe your own worth and merit. You have been chosen to bring this child into life; you are equipped to do so. Do not judge yourself, fear the process or second guess it – it is perfect, as you are.
“This baby’s arrival has more to do with your own personal growth and discovery – do not see it as a hurdle or challenge to overcome. This is not a difficult task – you have been offered the great gift of shaping and forming another, to learn and grow together and to enjoy what this teaches you. Embrace this.”
It helped me realise there is something bigger than me which has orchestrated the arrival of this child into our lives and THIS is the most important thing to pay attention to. I won’t allow myself to be overwhelmed with the plethora of ‘must have’ items in order to care for my child.
As one friend put it: “The baby won’t know or care about its cot, pram or clothes. It just wants to be loved and nurtured.”
Perhaps the same message is one you might be able to apply in other areas of your life?